Meditate day and night!

I can say that I have completely lost focus on heavenly things. You have to shamelessly admit your shortcomings and move forward. As I lay in bed tonight I’m praying and asking God what’s missing. I don’t want another sermon. I don’t want to read another Christian blog. And as I searched my heart my answer was simple, RELATIONSHIP! How awful do I feel to let life take focus from Him when He gave me life.

So as I pray God puts Psalms on my heart. I begin to think of David and his genuine worship and heart for God. I want that heart of worship. I open the book and this is the scripture I read.

“Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭1:1-2‬ ‭KJV‬‬

http://bible.com/1/psa.1.1-2.kjv

How do you meditate on Gods word?

Meditation is pondering the Word in our hearts, preaching it to our own souls, and personally applying it to our own lives and circumstances. It is how we sanctify our thinking and bring it into submission to Christ—taking every thought captive. Paul tells us

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect (Romans 12:2).

It is a discipline that takes time and intention, but one that brings great benefit to the soul. We need to carve out time to lay hold of the truth of God’s Word.

So I reset and ask God for forgiveness, I repent of my sins God and I turn my heart and focus back towards you! Without you in the center of it all I can’t thrive. Thank you for your mercies that are brand new!

PRIDE KILLS GROWTH

img_0909We have heard it before, don’t be prideful. We also know what the Lord says in scripture. But I have to say I couldn’t fully feel this until recently going through an experience with someone that I am close to. And I must say, PRIDE, well too much of it can make you have some disgusting ways. I wanted to spend some time this week reflecting on this topic, so that I can ensure that I am dealing with my own. I want to share this because I feel it is detrimental to the quality and progression of your life. Bottom line: PRIDE KILLS GROWTH!

What exactly is pride? I understand pride can be used in a positive way. But I’m not talking about that pride. I’m talking pure arrogance, insensitivity to the needs of others, self absorption, and presumption. Pride can be a disposition as well as an emotion, that causes a type of conduct.

Pride will keep you from asking for help when you need it. You may start out pursuing your dreams but inevitably, somewhere along the way you are going to need help. Pride will tell you that you don’t need anybody and then what happens? You can’t do it. Your dreams fall apart. All of your effort goes for nothing, and you look for someone else to blame.

Your relationships will FAIL. Pride can make a person incapable of coming outside of themselves to fully be there for another person. The moment a person realizes that you will always put yourself first, no matter the situation, there will no longer be much effort put into the relationship.

How do you know if this is you?

  • Are you a person that finds it difficult to admit to your mistake?
    • I had a colleague before who made a critical mistake that he was fully aware of.  Instead of informing management, he tried to resolve the problem on his own but the impact of that mistake was far too big already when management learned about it.  He lost his job because of this and had he informed immediately, the result might have gone the other way
  • Do you find it hard to say sorry even when you are wrong?
    • I have seen relationships end because of this one. If you are a person that is right even when there wrong, this is definitely for you.
  • You don’t want to ask for help.
    • Pride seems to give us this idea that when we ask questions, we tend to look weak and not knowledgeable. Pride can make us pretend to be someone we are not especially when it comes to admitting our lack of knowledge of a particular subject.  You cannot know everything and that there will be subjects that other people will know more of compared to you and this is not bad at all.

So what is the takeaway?

  • Self evaluation! I have talked about this before, it is very important. When you learn how to self evaluate you will see your faults as well as your pluses and see yourself realistically.
  • Own your faults then let it go.
  • You can’t be happy if you let pride run your life because it will eventually eat at you and drive the people you love away from you.  Stop being self-centered and let other people have their moment from time-to-time and give credit where credit is due.

Proverbs 11:2

When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom. 

BOOK CLUB

I’m excited to discuss Things Fall Apart written by Chinua Achebe!

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  1. Who was Achebe’s intended audience? Who did he write Things Fall Apart for? What was he trying to communicate his audience?
  2. What does the opening epigraph by Yeats tell us about the novel? What themes does it introduce?
  3. Is Okonkwo destined for tragedy or did his choices (made of his own free will) lead him to his tragic end?
  4. Why does Okonkwo hang himself? Is it a cowardly act or brave? Weak or noble?
  5. What do the constant references to gender (male/female) say about Okonkwo? About Igbo culture?
  6. Why do you think Achebe often used untranslated Igbo words? What kind of tone was he trying to evoke?
  7. Why do you think the people of Umuofia maintain the belief that the egwugwu are gods when they are clearly masked humans?
  8. The Western canon has traditionally imagined white European culture as humane and civilizing. On the other hand, Eastern and African cultures have been depicted as primitive and savage. Does this hold true for Things Fall Apart? How are the representations of both parties – the Igbo and the white men – more complex than this traditional model?
  9. Does Things Fall Apart present a one-dimensional perspective of white people or a holistic and accurate one?
  10. Is the story told about the Igbo and colonization only relevant to this specific Nigerian group or is it representative of other colonized groups as well?

Some questions I got from http://www.schmoop.com that will help you while reading this novel.

I’M OVER PERFECT HAIR

img_0831I started my natural journey ten years ago. Although I am all about my natural hair and lifestyle, I have not always embraced my hair in its natural state. It took five years into my journey before I started to learn to embrace my hair in its unadulterated texture. My excuse was, it’s just not for me. But honestly, what is more you, than the hair growing out of your scalp. The real issue was, I subconsciously thought the “right” way to wear your hair was pressed, smooth, and shiny. [Brainwashed] Once I found the strength and courage to wear my natural texture, there was no turning back for me. I was on the quest for the perfect curl. I would literally spend hours upon hours on YouTube watching videos on getting the most defined perfect curls. I have definitely come a long way. After years of  trial and error with two big chops, I think I may have found my way.

Now that I am trying to find my way as a new mom, I began to question is my hair care regimen going to work for me. As a mother you need practicality! And there was nothing practical about my hair regimen. From the hundreds of dollars I would spend hoarding on products. To the rigorous routine I did weekly. My routine was so time-consuming that I began to dread it. After my baby came, I just neglected it.

After a few months of avoidance, I had to get back to myself. One of the things in life that brings me joy is the effort and care I put into my hair. But I had to find a better way. Today I mostly focus on the health of my hair and not so much obsession over the outcome.

It took some time but now I am in love with every part of my hair. The puffy the frizz and every curl in between. Simply because it is the uniquely uncompromised me. But I know everyone doesn’t feel the same as me. I notice when I am out with a fresh perfectly defined wash n go, I would get adoration from everyone from relaxed to the natural hair girls. But if I am on day 4 or 5 of the wash n go, when my hair in puffy, frizzy, and a curly mess. I would only get compliments from woman who don’t wear their hair in its natural state. From my girls in the natural hair community, I will get drilled questions to see what I’m doing wrong. Because obviously, if your curls not popping you got to be doing something wrong. Seriously, my hair is healthy, long, thick, and thriving so what is the issue? I have to ask, what is the natural hair communities obsession with perfect curls? (IM ASKING FOR MYSELF)

I don’t take issue with a natural taking pride in caring for her hair and defining her natural curl pattern. The issue that comes for me is when you can’t leave your home without a bomb super defined wash n go, twist out, braid out etc. Are you genuinely embracing your natural texture. Your hair in its natural texture, unprocessed and not weighed down with product is your true natural.

It is not my motive to tell any natural how they should wear their hair. I just want to give my perspective on the subject. One of the most beautiful things about a black woman is the texture of our natural hair, there is none like it on earth. And every natural is unique in their own way, no ones natural is the same.

I do feel like the natural community is lacking in the areas of support and inclusion of all textures. I feel if we all began to embrace and fully accept our textures in their unadulterated pure natural states, the community could overcome the issue of texture discrimination some experience. And we can become a more welcoming and inclusive environment to all hair types.

 

 

 

Lets Talk Insecurities!

img_0794Have you ever been that person in the room before an interview full of self-doubt?  The person nervous because he is not confident in his capability to perform. That young girl in the mirror that can’t recognize her own worth and beauty. We have all been there, despite the accomplishments you may have, still seems like insecurity finds its way. Continue reading

I Am My Sister’s Keeper!

Imagine what our world could look like if we were all our sister’s keeper. There is an awkward tension amongst sisters that I can’t understand. It has been my experience that some woman are convinced they want nothing to do with you, before you have your first conversation. Of course, I am not speaking for every black woman, just letting that be clear but I have to be real and acknowledge a weak area for most of us.  I put some thought into it and I want to talk about the issues that we encounter so that we can examine our own selves to become a better support system to each other. Continue reading

Hair Boot camp: Get these coils in shape!

So since motherhood, I have been to relaxed about the health and caring of my hair. A bit to much for comfort. So with that being said it is time for hair boot camp. I am going to go through an 8 week program to whip my locs back into shape. I will share with you my schedule and update the progress as I go. I will start with a small cut about 2 inches. I noticed my curls love a fresh cut. Continue reading